Wow, so here we are with another Quarter Life Crisis Confessions. I feel like it’s been a while since I’ve written one of these! Welcome back to this series. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about job rejection, particularly because I’ve been experiencing a lot of it. Apparently switching career paths is a lot harder than originally thought! There seems to always someone with more experience in the field, even when I feel an interview has gone well. It got me thinking that this is probably a pretty common thing for us 20-somethings to experience. Every company wants someone with 3-5 years of experience, but no one is willing to be the ones to provide us with that experience. It’s no wonder why millennials (including myself) seem to be driven to work for themselves.
My Recent Job Rejection Experience
In order to take my blog to the next level, I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to invest money in it in order to make money from it. My blog is currently my number one priority, as I plan for it to be the driving force in whatever I end up doing as my own business. So far, I’ve invested in having a self-hosted blog, a premium theme, and a PO box for my email newsletters (so I don’t have to share my home address with the whole world, lol). However, there is a lot more investing to be done before I will feel like I’m going full force with it. Because of this, I need some sort of proper income and have been looking for a job while I wait to go back to school.
I recently had an interview with my city’s municipal government for an HR position that I was really interested in. It sounded like the perfect opportunity. I would be working on a couple of different projects with the other members of the HR team and it was a summer position (meaning I wouldn’t have to disappoint anyone when leaving to go back to school in September). I felt really confident about how my interview went and knew that even though I don’t have any previous HR experience that I’m an extremely quick learner and hard worker, so I felt I would make a great addition to the team. Unfortunately, the verdict was that they found someone with more experience. It was a student position, yet someone was better fit for the role than I was.
Initially, I felt super disappointed. I’ve experienced job rejection before, but for the most part I’ve been successful at getting the jobs that I’ve wanted. I got my hopes up just to have them shot down. I was feeling useless, like I couldn’t do anything right.
The Millennial Mindset of Entitlement
Something I realized in this process is that even though I gave it my all and thought I would be a positive asset to their team, the world doesn’t owe me anything. Let me repeat that for you all, the world does not owe us anything. That may seem harsh though it’s not meant to be, but our generation seems to have it in our minds that because we put effort into something that we deserve to be rewarded. I’m absolutely guilty of this mindset at times as well. Maybe it comes from the fact that when we were young we all received participation ribbons just for taking part in activities, who knows.
All we can do as humans is try our best to achieve the things we want to achieve, and hope for the best. However, if the best doesn’t happen, we can’t fall apart. It’s like the old saying goes: we can’t always get what we want. In times of disappointment, remember all of the good things you have in your life. Put it into perspective. And while I write this, I’m thinking to myself that I need to start taking my own advice. You’re not alone in this, we’re all in this together. But we need to make a solid effort to do better at this.
In all of this, I’m lucky enough to have the opportunity to work for my dad for a bit of extra money. Though it’s not exactly what I want I would choose for myself to be doing, I’m fortunate to be working from home and have some extra quality time to spend with my dad as a bonus. He pays fairly and the work isn’t all that bad! I know that most people don’t have parents that are entrepreneurs, so I’m incredibly lucky in that regard. It’s a positive mindset such as this one that keeps me going.
Have you experienced job rejection? If so, how did you deal with it? Let’s start a discussion about it in the comments and learn from each other! And if you’re looking for further reading, be sure to check out my previous post, Date Night Ideas for Millennials on a Budget, where I talk about different ideas of things to do for a fun date night that doesn’t break the bank! Finally, if you haven’t already, be sure to get access to the free resource library for all of your adulting needs all in one place!