Dear Past Self
Hi! This is probably weird, hearing from your future self, especially because blogging wasn’t really a thing in the 90s. I mean, the internet wasn’t really a huge thing either, so I assume blogging goes along with that. Anyway, don’t be weirded out, I promise I’m not an alien or someone trying to mess with you, it’s really me!You'll experience beautiful moments of joy, laughter, and love. You'll also experience heartbreak, anger, and confusion. Both the good and bad times will help you grow stronger! Click To Tweet
First of all, I want to let you know that even with everything you’re going to go through, life does work out, and you are going to be okay. You’ll experience beautiful moments of joy, laughter, and love. You’ll also experience heartbreak, anger, and confusion. All of these experiences, good and bad, will allow you to grow into someone who is strong. Someone who goes after what she believes in and who cares for those around her fully and whole-heartedly.
When you start going to school, you’re going to want to cry and scream in other kid’s faces. Those kids will tell you that you’re weird, and yes, it’s a little extreme, but understand that your feelings are valid. You later learn that you have anxiety, so all of your extreme behaviours having to do with your “shyness” will be justified someday! In the meantime, seek value in the friendships that you do make, because those people will stick with you for a long time. Quality over quantity (and eventually you’ll grow out of the screaming and crying, so it’ll be easier to make more friends… look forward to that day).Seek value over everything in your friendships, as those are the people that will stick by you for the long haul. Quality over quantity! Click To Tweet
You will realize that not all kids are going to be nice to you. When you get a little bit older, you’ll find passion in the arts of dancing, singing, and acting. A lot of other kids at school either won’t understand these passions or they may exhibit jealousy. As a result, you will experience bullying. That’s okay, because you’re strong willed and know what you believe in, and you stand up for what’s right. You’re incredibly smart and talented and have a wonderful confidence about you. It’s so unfortunate that this confidence will fade away for a little while. Hold onto it for as long as you can, as I’m still trying to recover it at age 23.
I know you probably won’t believe this, but you will become boy crazy. I KNOW. That sounds insane right now, but a wide variety of young gentlemen will take your heart. Some will be close friends, while others will be someone you admire from a distance but are too nervous to talk to, while others yet will be complete strangers. You’ll have an infinite amount of crushes whom you and your girlfriends will gossip about. This is an exhilarating time in your life – take the time to enjoy it.We all spend too much time on the wrong people. We get heart broken more times than one hand can count. These experiences make us stronger and help us appreciate when we find someone who treats us well! Click To Tweet
You will have boyfriends. You’ll spend too much time on the wrong guys and experience some toxic situations. You’ll fall in love and you’ll have your heartbroken more times than you can count on one hand. Believe it or not, this is a positive thing. You become so much stronger of a person because of these experiences, so see them for what they are – learning opportunities.
Finally, I want you to know that I’m currently very happy with where we’re at. There have been struggles, don’t get me wrong, but there are also so many things that are going well. You met the most incredible man you ever could have found. Picture your prince charming… are you picturing him? Yeah, you end up with him! Pretty cool right? And in addition to that, you have the best support system imaginable in both his family and your own. You’re still not someone with a large quantity of friends, but as you get older you realize that quality is so much more important in friendships, and the people who you genuinely consider true friends are people you’ve developed strong connections with over time.I don't see any reason to want to change the past, because it's led me to where and who I am today. And today is somewhere I never could have dreamed of being! Click To Tweet
The bottom line is that life consists of ups and downs. I don’t think there’s any point in changing any decisions I’ve made in the past because they brought me to where I am today. And where I am today is somewhere I never could have even dreamed of being. Everything in my life is still a work in progress, but I’m so excited to work on myself further and see how far I’ve come when I look back on this in a few year’s time. I’m incredibly fortunate to have experienced so many cheerful and challenging moments, and I wouldn’t change them for the world.
Sometimes it’s nice to remind ourselves how far we’ve come! What is one thing you would tell your past self? Have you written an article like this? I’d love to see it! Share the link and your answer to the question in the comments below!
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