Wow, so here we are with anotherΒ Quarter Life Crisis Confessions. I feel like it’s been a while since I’ve written one of these! Welcome back to this series. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about job rejection, particularly because I’ve been experiencing a lot of it. Apparently switching career paths is a lot harder than originally thought! There seems to always someone with more experience in the field, even when I feel an interview has gone well. It got me thinking that this is probably a pretty common thing for us 20-somethings to experience. Every company wants someone with 3-5 years of experience, but no one is willing to be the ones to provide us with that experience. It’s no wonder why millennials (including myself) seem to be driven to work for themselves. How to deal with job rejection: Quarter life crisis confessions - A Daynna Life

My Recent Job Rejection Experience

In order to take my blog to the next level, I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to invest money in it in order to make money from it. My blog is currently my number one priority, as I plan for it to be the driving force in whatever I end up doing as my own business. So far, I’ve invested in having a self-hosted blog, a premium theme, and a PO box for my email newsletters (so I don’t have to share my home address with the whole world, lol). However, there is a lot more investing to be done before I will feel like I’m going full force with it. Because of this, I need some sort of proper income and have been looking for a job while I wait to go back to school.

I recently had an interview with my city’s municipal government for an HR position that I was really interested in. It sounded like the perfect opportunity. I would be working on a couple of different projects with the other members of the HR team and it was a summer position (meaning I wouldn’t have to disappoint anyone when leaving to go back to school in September). I felt really confident about how my interview went and knew that even though I don’t have any previous HR experience that I’m an extremely quick learner and hard worker, so I felt I would make a great addition to the team. Unfortunately, the verdict was that they found someone with more experience. It was a student position, yet someone was better fit for the role than I was.

Initially, I felt super disappointed. I’ve experienced job rejection before, but for the most part I’ve been successful at getting the jobs that I’ve wanted. I got my hopes up just to have them shot down. I was feeling useless, like I couldn’t do anything right.

The Millennial Mindset of Entitlement

Something I realized in this process is that even though I gave it my all and thought I would be a positive asset to their team, the world doesn’t owe me anything. Let me repeat that for you all,Β the world does not owe us anything. That may seem harsh though it’s not meant to be, but our generation seems to have it in our minds that because we put effort into something that we deserve to be rewarded. I’m absolutely guilty of this mindset at times as well. Maybe it comes from the fact that when we were young we all received participation ribbons just for taking part in activities, who knows.

All we can do as humans is try our best to achieve the things we want to achieve, and hope for the best. However, if the best doesn’t happen, we can’t fall apart. It’s like the old saying goes: we can’t always get what we want. In times of disappointment, remember all of the good things you have in your life. Put it into perspective. And while I write this, I’m thinking to myself that I need to start taking my own advice. You’re not alone in this, we’re all in this together. But we need to make a solid effort to do better at this.

In Conclusion…

In all of this, I’m lucky enough to have the opportunity to work for my dad for a bit of extra money. Though it’s not exactly what I want I would choose for myself to be doing, I’m fortunate to be working from home and have some extra quality time to spend with my dad as a bonus. He pays fairly and the work isn’t all that bad! I know that most people don’t have parents that are entrepreneurs, so I’m incredibly lucky in that regard. It’s a positive mindset such as this one that keeps me going.Free resource library - A Daynna Life

Have you experienced job rejection? If so, how did you deal with it? Let’s start a discussion about it in the comments and learn from each other! And if you’re looking for further reading, be sure to check out my previous post,Β Date Night Ideas for Millennials on a Budget, where I talk about different ideas of things to do for a fun date night that doesn’t break the bank! Finally, if you haven’t already, be sure to get access to the free resource library for all of your adulting needs all in one place!

28 Comments on How to Deal with Job Rejection: Quarter Life Crisis Confessions

  1. Rejection is never fun but it does create good learning experiences to look back on! It’s awesome that you can work for your dad and take some time to really focus in on your blog.

  2. Rejection is sooo hard! I read this quote last week, after I got rejected from an opportunity and it made me feel inspired, so thought I’d share it with you too πŸ˜‰
    β€œEvery time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli

    Jennifer Ashley

  3. I understand this!! I applied for a lot of jobs right out of school and maybe heard back from 2-3! I work for myself now and it’s definitely still challenging!

    • Right? It’s super difficult to get into anywhere, especially right out of school! Congrats on working for yourself, I definitely plan on doing that as well when the time is right. πŸ™‚

  4. This post hits home on so many levels! I switched gears as well, and am currently working for my dad until I get on my feet. But before that when I was applying, the amount of times I got feedback from an interview or just my application along the lines of “We found a more qualified candidate.” was insane. I had one interviewer straight-up tell me I was competing against several people with PhDs (even though you only needed a bachelors and I was finishing up my master’s). It is crazy. But I think it was for the best. Maybe further down the road I’ll think of trying it again. But honestly, while my dad is kind of annoying to work for, it’s a really easy job that pays well. I’m enjoying blogging in my spare time and having time to do my real estate stuff and flipping houses.

    • I can completely relate girl! It is definitely awesome to have that option and I’m glad you’re able to still have time to do the things you love! The job market is just insane these days, there’s always someone “more qualified”. At least everything happens for a reason and these experiences only make us stronger! πŸ™‚

  5. I got fired twice in under a month and have written about it a whole bunch. IT was for the best – I was just SO unhappy working for people and being locked up inside all day that I sabotaged the jobs. As a kid I was super entrepreneurial and needed to get back to my roots so I started my own business in 2014 and never looked back!

    • I can so relate to this! It’s never fun doing a job that makes you unhappy and I think it’s pretty natural to kind of lean towards sabotaging it yourself. I’m so glad you were able to find your passion and run with it, good for you girl! I’m in the process of doing that right now as well so here’s hoping all works out! πŸ™‚

  6. Job rejection sucks! I got my degree in Kinesiology and even got a personal trainer certificate but the experience factor would get me every time. That’s one of the reason I started a blog.

    • Ahh, I’m sorry to hear that it’s been such a frustrating process for you! I completely agree, there’s always someone with more experience and it’s super frustrating! Starting a blog was a fantastic idea though and hopefully it continues to go well for you! πŸ™‚

  7. I love this post, and I think it’s so important for millennials to read. I’ve experienced some job rejection before – some after interviews and some with just no replies to my applications – but it’s so important to learn from each experience. Thanks for sharing your story!

    • I completely agree, every experience makes us stronger and helps us to grow so as long as we take it as a learning experience it’s never a waste! Thanks so much! πŸ™‚

  8. I know the feeling! Getting rejected for a job, especially when you thought the interview went really well, is difficult to get past but what I’ve learned is that eventually it will all work out! Sometimes you find things out about the company later on that would’ve made you miserable in that position or you find a job at a company that’s 10x better than the other company.

    Trust in the process and know that eventually you’ll find the right fit for you πŸ™‚

  9. It’s definitely difficult to get rejected. I think I applied to like 100+ companies before landing my first job and now I work for myself haha.

    • Wow that’s a lot! Good for you for finding a passion and working for yourself though! That’s my end goal as well so it’s nice to hear that other people have been successful in it. πŸ™‚

  10. I didn’t realize how long my first job search out of college would take and I got used to rejections. After I landed my first FT gig it’s been smooth sailing! It gave me the confidence and skills I needed.

    • That’s amazing! I’m so glad you were able to grow from the experience and take something positive from it. I think that’s so important! Thank you for sharing! πŸ™‚

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